Why Breaking Up After An Affair Is The Right Thing To Do
Feb 02 2017 19:22 3 mins read
It's a tough call - deciding whether to forgive and forget when your partner is unfaithful or kicking your them to the curb when they cheat on you. There are pros and cons to either forgiveness or divorce after infidelity and it's up to each person to decide what's best for them. These are the reasons why breaking up with a cheater is the right choice:
They're likely to do it again.
It's no secret that once a person cheats they're likely to keep doing it again and again. It's hard to find trust again after being cheated on. If someone thinks they can cheat on their partner without any serious consequences there's a good chance they'll continue to be unfaithful whenever they get the opportunity. If your partner thinks they can just get their needs met elsewhere and still enjoy all of the benefits of being in a relationship it's easy to see why they'd want to keep having affairs. Why should they get away with having the best of both worlds while you're miserable at home? Break up with your cheating partner and leave them in the dust to show them that they can't pull this type of behaviour off.
You'll never fully trust them.
Nothing is worse than being in a relationship where you can't trust your partner. If you're suspicious every time they say they're working late, or you start obsessing about where they are and who they're with then it's a sign that their cheating is more than you need to put up with in your life. No one deserves to always be on guard and wondering if their spouse is straying. It can take years to rebuild broken trust in a relationship and more often than not you're better off to cut ties and move on instead of living a life filled with doubt and mistrust.
They'll think they can get away with anything.
If you let your partner cheat on you without any consequences then it's a slippery slope to them thinking that they can get away with whatever they want. A cheating spouse might start slacking off on their duties at home, treating you badly in other ways, or letting their efforts in the relationship slide, because they know that they can get away with anything. If you let your partner off the hook for cheating it's a way of opening the door to them walking all over you and showing that you're a pushover in the relationship.
You won't respect each other if you stay.
If you don't respect yourself enough to divorce a spouse after infidelity then there's no way they'll respect you either. They might see you as naive or easy to manipulate. You won't respect them either as you doubt their word and see them as weak or hurtful. Mutual disrespect is not the way to a happy and healthy relationship. In fact, letting a cheater stay with you only creates an atmosphere of negativity and resentment among both partners, which is no way for anyone to live their life. Show your partner that you respect yourself too much to stay with them when they are unfaithful.
There's someone better for you out there.
You could continue to stay in a relationship with a cheating partner and let them walk all over you, or you could file for divorce and find someone better. There are lots of other people out there in Canada that value trust, commitment, and monogamy. Breaking up with a cheater gives you the chance to find someone else who will respect you and stay faithful to your relationship, which is what everyone deserves to find. Try these dating tips to find happiness through dating after marriage.